人生有三件事不能等

人生有三件事不能等: 第一是 "貧窮"... 貧窮不能等, 因為一旦時間久了, 你將會習慣貧窮, 到時不但無法突破自我, 甚至會抹殺了自己的夢想, 而庸庸碌碌的過一輩子! 第二是 "夢想"... 夢想不能等, 因為人生不同的階段, 會有不同的歷練和想法, 試想一個問題: 如果你20歲時的夢想, 在60歲的時候才得以實現, 那會是甚麼樣的一個情況? 譬如說你20歲時的夢想是希望能買到一輛法拉利的跑車, 然後到德國的無限速公路狂飆. 你一直努力工作, 好不容易到60歲了, 總算買得起跑車了, 但要實現年輕時的夢想, 恐怕也是心有餘力而力不足吧！ 第三是 "家人"... 家人不能等, 或許我們還年輕, 未來有很多的時間可以讓我們摸索, 打拼, 但是家人呢? 他們還有時間等我們成功嗎? 還有時間等我們賺到錢, 讓他們過好日子, 讓他們以我們為榮? 樹欲靜而風不止, 子欲養而親不在也! 這是很多人的痛, 也是很多人一輩子的遺憾.

The secrets to having a good relationship

Dear friends,

There are ways we can have a good relationship with our spouse and partners. The methods are not hard. How ‘hard’ it is to implement is dependent on how much you really want this relationship. How much we want ANYTHING IS HOW HARD WE MAKE IT IN OUR MINDS. The reasons why you find it hard to implement changes in you in order to have a good relationship, could be due to these few things perhaps?

1. Subconsciously you don’t feel the relationship is worth it.

2. You are using the person, so they stay or leave you could care less. It is only for your personal advantage.

3. You didn’t even know your actions were affecting them in such a manner.

4. The person has hurt you so much, but you are afraid you won’t find someone else.

5. Low self-esteem overall.

6. You don’t want to be conscious of it because it is too much work.

7. You can find someone else easily you think.

8. Fear.

9. You don’t care.

10. Convenience.

11. You want to punish them. Revenge.

12. You want to punish yourself.

13. You don’t deserve better.

14. You don’t want to be alone at all costs even at the cost of your happiness. Ironic as it sounds.

15. Wrong cultural beliefs about women. About men. About relationships.

16. You just wanted the spouse for the kids and the spouse doesn’t matter. Or you’re stuck because you had the kids.

17. You have this relationship because you simply can.

18. Rebound.

19. For money or lack of it.

20. Showing off.

21. Keep family quiet.

22. Desperation.

23. Immaturity.

24. Unwilling to face facts and move on.

25. Spoilt. Things have been always easy for you so no one else matters except yourself. Sadly, in the end, you will need others.

26. Maybe none of the above and there are more reasons both valid and invalid.

27. For the passport or citizenship. Asylum.

28. You have nowhere to go.

29. Tradition. Face.

30. Medical condition. Mental or physical. (Get help because your partner and you are worth it.)

31. Parents.

32. Combinations or variations of the above.

You have to check if it’s any of the 32 listed and figure out why. Deal with it. Face it. And do something positive with it. Most of all be honest, be open, be communicative and keep your promises always. Face the music, overcome it and be in a healthy situations with or without a relationship ultimately. You and your partner deserve it.

Whether relationships go right or not is from the onset. You have to ask yourself WHY DID YOU GET TOGETHER WITH THIS OTHER PERSON IN THE FIRST PLACE. If the motivation was purely self serving, then as time goes on, things will unravel for sure. Think carefully.

Some thoughts on love relationships

1. Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to destroy something good.

2. The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships, being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you.

3. Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty.

4. In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time.

5. What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.

6. It takes a years to earn the trust of your spouse, but one selfish mistake to break their heart. Then years to regain their trust again. Just be honest from the beginning and always be loyal.

7. There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner.

8. Everyone has so much pain already. No one is not damaged goods. So why bring more pain to your partner. Love, cherish and respect your partner by being honest and always communicating.

9. I am sorry is ok once, twice but not three times. If you are always apologizing, maybe you are not respecting the relationship you are in. Either respect your relationship or create a prison. It’s up to you.

10. Love is intentional. So are affairs out of marriage. You choose what you want. But remember, whatever you choose will come back to you if you are choosing for selfish reasons.

11. No one forced you to have a relationship. So do not make excuses for hurting your partner. Take responsibility for all your actions starting with your partner.

12. When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues.

13. All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it…

14. When we look back and see how many partners we have changed, we can be sure it is a sign we have not fulfilled what we should be doing in life. Finding partners is just a delay tactic perhaps for what we should really be doing..

15. Partners and spouses are only ok to have when we are ok.

16. Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt.

17. The best way to hurt yourself and your partner is when you use them to hide behind your selfish avoidances.

18. When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first.

19. If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness.

20. You deserve what you give. The universe owes you nothing. But you owe the universe everything. Be comfortable with that thought first and then seek friends.

你能分清楚爱和喜欢吗？

喜歡和愛咫尺千里。

當你喜歡一個人時，你想和他在一起，因為他會帶給你快樂；

離開後，你會想念，想著想著就會笑，然後繼續你平靜的生活，並期待著與他再一次重逢。

當你愛一個人時，你想和他在一起，那是一種牽腸掛肚的捨不得，怕他受委屈，怕他不能好好照顧自己；

離開後，你也會想念，想著想著歎一口氣，'不知他現在過的怎樣？'

然後你繼續你平靜的生活，希望他早日回到你身邊。

你喜歡的人在你眼中是天使，無所不能，他總會滿足你的任性的要求。

你愛的人在你眼中是孩子，傻傻的，你不期望他做出什麼'好事'來，只一味縱容他那些讓人哭笑不得的舉動。

你會希望你喜歡的人陪著你，然而你心中想的可能是你愛的人；

你會希望陪在你愛的人身邊，看他在你面前睡得如此安逸甜美毫不設防的樣子，你會微笑，會覺得好幸福。

你喜歡的人傷害了你，你會生氣，並且一定要讓他哄著騙著逗你笑你才原諒他；

你愛的人傷害了你，你只會獨自傷心，因為你怕對他大吼大叫會嚇著他，你憂傷地微笑著，看著他的眼睛，

一旦發現他的眼裡流露出歉意和悔恨，你會立即心疼地摟他在懷裡，那一刻，你也是幸福的。

你可以同時喜歡很多人，你會希望和很多人在一起，

但也許很多年後你才發現，原來你愛的就只有那麼一個，

就那麼一個，怎麼都不會變，你以為把他忘記了，其實只是忙的沒空想起而已，

對於你喜歡的人，你關注的是他的優點；

對於你愛的人，你關注的是他的缺點，並且，那些缺點如果無關原則的話，它們在你眼裡是可愛的，獨一無二的。

喜歡和愛其實只有一紙之隔，任何愛都從喜歡開始，當有天你突然發現，你喜歡的那個人在你眼中不再完美，

而他的瑕疵正如月中的桂影一般讓你更加依依不捨，你會覺得與他光彩照人的一面相比，

你更願意看他在你面前無助的表情，不知道是不是應該祝賀你，總之，你的感情昇華了

仰慕不是愛，甚至不是喜歡，當你對一個人只有仰慕之情時，你們在一起便失去了和諧。

有人說愛一個人很累，的確是，因為你想為他承擔，可是愛與喜歡相比最大的魅力就在於，

當你和愛的人在一起時，你的感覺就像回家了

Listen to your heart

“Why do we have to listen to our hearts?” the boy asked, when they had made camp that day.

“Because, wherever your heart is, that is where you’ll find your treasure.”

“But my heart is agitated,” the boy said. “It has its dreams, it gets emotional, and it’s become passionate over a woman of the desert. It asks things of me, and it keeps me from sleeping many nights, when I’m thinking about her.”

“Well, that’s good. Your heart is alive. Keep listening to what it has to say.”

“My heart is a traitor,” the boy said to the alchemist, when they had paused to rest the horses. “It doesn’t want me to go on.”

“That makes sense. Naturally it’s afraid that, in pursuing your dream, you might lose everything you’ve won.”

“Well, then, why should I listen to my heart?”

“Because you will never again be able to keep it quiet ”

“You mean I should listen, even if it’s treasonous?”

“Treason is a blow that comes unexpectedly. If you know your heart well, it will never be able to do that to you. Because you’ll know its dreams and wishes, and will know how to deal with them."

“My heart is afraid that it will have to suffer,” the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky.

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.”

From “The Alchemist”

Pain...

In dreams she wander searching far, making wishes in the stars,
will alone she always be? Shall happiness soon find her at last? Or will the cycle simply last?...

In silver moon beams, she search the nite, seeking shelter to be held tight,
angels wings carry her flight, could this nite be the nite?...

The huntress who hungers for so much more,
return back home and through her door.

Alone to lay upon her bed, her lips of traces of blood she fed,
her life isn't one that is easily to explain, at times her tears they fall like rain...

Of haunted heat and darkest soul, wild sensual hungers never told.
taking her pleasures without fail, but still alone to tell her tale!

Of haunted heat and darkest soul, wild sensual hungers never told,
Taking her pleasures without fail, but still alone to tell her tale!

In her dreams she holds him tight, and only then does it feel right.
Endless times she wishes never to rise, yet when she awakens, the dream dies...

Man of darkness where are thee, come and take her and set her free...
you of hell fire's darkest nights, take your dark angel and hold her tight!...

Le Sentiment...

Le Sentiment means The Feeling in French.

I have not log into my blog for long long time. And the word "Le Sentiment" bring me back, and I should thanks Tiger@HakkanLye. Hahaha...

Why? Because Tiger asked me to help him to think of a name for his new Studio. So the first thing that came into my mind is all his artwork, and it's all about FEELING!!! Because to Feeling is very important to Tiger's artwork. But in English and Malay is so weird and doesn't sounds good at all. Therefore I asked him which country or language he think is the most romantic and mystery one... And he told me it's Paris, French! And that is exactly what I think. So I go search for the online translator to help me to translate the word I want into French, which is "Le Sentiment" = "The Feeling"...

I whatsapp Tiger in the first place where I got this name, and I am so glad that he like the name too, but just wondering if he can use that in Malaysia to register a company. Anyway, I think it is ok, since this name is easy to pronounce and easy to remember. Plus whenever have customer or people ask what is the meaning of this name, he can explain to them in a very beautiful way... It's like, wow~~~ "The Feeling" is so different!!!

Well, that is what I think, I am not too sure about others. As for myself, I love this name to the bit! And hope that it can be use! So that I will get to see the name that I choose! Hahaha!!!